Understanding your child and his or her behavior is the most important skill you should have as a parent. A child starts showing his or her personality gradually from birth to age six. They are young explorers and each one has a unique personality and different traits. Thus, each child expresses differently. The real change or growth begins in the adolescent years … 6 to 12 years. During these years, you can see the dominant personality of your child, such as Peace Loving, Problem Solver, Organizer, Leader or a Rebellion. You as a parent need to learn the skills necessary to work with your children through their teen years and beyond.
Understanding your child will help you become more effective in building a strong bond with your child(ren) as they grow and mature. You can understand your child by observing them while they play, eat or sleep. Which activities do they like the most? Which is their favorite subject in school? Which type of serials do they like to watch the most?
Keep on looking for the consistent traits. Is your child transiting easily from one phase to another? Is the change easy for them or do they take time to adapt to new situations, things? However, these things are normal characteristics for any child and your child may not be an exception but at the same time, any deviation from the normal must be taken care of.
You must take time out to talk to your child not only on special occasions and on about special things but make it a part of your daily routine. Young children require less verbal language and more body language and facial expressions. Make it a fun activity with them by role modeling and sharing about your feelings and thoughts. Ask questions such that it becomes easy for them to express themselves. Such as what game did they play? What did they draw in their drawing book? What type of questions did they ask to their friends or teacher?
[su_quote]”[su_highlight background=”#d399ff”]To be in your children’s memory tomorrow, you will have to be in their lives today” Kavita Yadav[/su_highlight][/su_quote]
If your child starts showing aggressive behavior, you must look at all the possible sources. For instance, observe the environment that your child is a part of… friends, teachers, relatives, the home setting. All these play a very vital role in the behavior of your child.
You can also learn by observing the children of the same age group as the behavior more or less remains similar of a common age group but the speed of development through each stage is a personal thing. By understanding your child’s behavior and development, you will be able to provide them with opportunities and will be better prepared to boost them for the next phase of their growth. As a parent, you should also set expectations and limits that are acceptable to your child by taking the child into confidence. While you do this, you ensure the safety and security of your child’s intellectual and emotional well being.
Given today’s fast-paced lifestyle where both parents are working and they spend more time working rather than being with their kids, being a responsible parent is hard. It is difficult to spend quality time with your child while you try to juggle your time between professional life and parenthood but still very much doable. If you feel the need, you can reach out to me to understand the “HOW” part better. I am always there to support you in becoming successful in the art of parenting.